What to Do When Attending a Memorial Service

At Bohlender Funeral Chapel in Fort Collins, Colorado, we understand the complexities that come with honoring a loved one through a memorial service. Here’s a helpful guide to ensure that your memorial service embodies the spirit of love and remembrance.

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1. Arrive on Time 

When attending a memorial service, arriving late may disrupt the proceedings and distract from the celebration of life. We recommend guests arrive 10-15 minutes early to allow time for greeting family members and settling in. If you are attending a service at Bohlender Funeral Chapel, get directions to map your drive time now.

2. Dress Appropriately  

While the approach to attire may vary depending on the family’s wishes, dark colors are traditional for memorial services. Modest, elegant clothing that reflects the personality of the deceased is also appropriate. In our funeral service planning, we encourage conversations about dress code preferences. 

3. Respect the Family  

If you are close to the family, offer your condolences and share memories. Respect their need for time and space; a simple “I’m here for you” can go a long way in expressing love. Everyone experiences grief differently, so please read our grief support guide for more.

4. Be Mindful of the Ceremony  

During the actual memorial service, avoid loud conversations, taking phone calls, or any distractions that might disrupt the atmosphere. If you have children with you, ensure they understand the sensitivity of the occasion. 

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5. Offer Condolences Thoughtfully  

When speaking to the family, express your condolences sincerely. Share a cherished memory of the deceased if appropriate. Each sentiment matters, and your words can bring comfort during this difficult time.

6. Bring a Gift or Card  

7. Participate Respectfully  

Should the memorial service include opportunities to share memories or stories, feel free to contribute. Speak from the heart; sharing how the loved one impacted your life can provide solace to others there to celebrate their life.

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At Bohlender Funeral Chapel, we guide families through the intricacies of memorial service planning, ensuring that all attendees reflect the love and memory of the deceased in a respectful manner. By following this etiquette guide, you can help create an environment that fosters healing and remembrance during the memorial and burial services.

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